Ruby Prinsen

“WRITING NEW RULES. What makes S/M work at all is that, in order to play, we intentionally alter the customary rules of personal responsibility, and enter into a ritualized codependency. The ritual is what makes it possible, and safe, to travel in the uncharted psychological territory of bottom space. “Janet says: When I teach my classes for novice tops, I say: “Normally, you have a ‘bubble’ of protectiveness you put around yourself to prevent yourself from being physically or emotionally hurt. When you agree to top someone, you’ve just agreed to put that bubble around you and your partner for… Read more: Interaffectivity and the Kinky “Bubble”

I wanted to take a moment to define a few terms in the kink community. The kink community (like other communities), has a culture and language around it that evolves and shapes over time. While there might be some disagreement over the terms I use, I hope to remain at the very least consistent when I talk about it. Kink is another term for BDSM. BDSM is an acronym that stands for Bondage, Domination, Discipline, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism. BDSM players are usually categorized into roles based on specific activities, such as: While each role signifies a different dynamic, ‘Dom’… Read more: Kink Terms